Wednesday, 13 April 2016

It’s Not Luck, It’s Bloody Hard Work

I have been freelancing from home for the past 5 ½ years and I love it and I love the work I do. It gives me the flexibility to be with my children, I have really low childcare costs (Little Miss funding has just kicked in so zero costs now) and I get to choose who I work with.

When I tell people I am a work at home mum they generally tell me I am really lucky and for a very long time I agreed with them.

Oh yes I am lucky not to have to go out to work

Oh yes I am lucky that I get to be at home with my children.

Oh yes I am lucky to do I job that I love.

But I’m not lucky; I work really, really hard to be able to do this. Don’t get me wrong I wouldn't have it any other way but it’s not come easy.  I spent many years working away late into the night and grabbing precious minutes at nap time to fit work in and build up a reputation and client portfolio.  

During that time I had a second child and a lovely bout of depression to help things along.
I still work in small pockets of time as Little Miss only goes to tom playgroup 3 mornings a week, I am praying really hard that two extra mornings become free soon! Life is hectic and sometimes down right exhausting. My recent illness has not helped but I am on the mend now.

I let myself devalue my own work. I think it’s because for such a long time I felt like a fraud, not believing in my abilities. I have come to realise that I am good at what I do!!

I feel like I am on the go constantly. Today I have dropped the girls off, BG at school and Little Miss at playgroup. Before we left the house I swapped the washing over. When I got back from the school run I filled the dishwasher and swept the floor while I waited for the kettle to boil. I have then done an hour and 20 mins work and have written this blog post (yes I am skiving), very soon I will have to walk back and pick Little Miss up (I don’t drive so the 20 min journey is done on foot), we will then walk home, have lunch, I will attempt some tidying, have a cup of tea and then do my 3rd school run of the day. Then it will be dinner time, bed time, I will then do a few hours work, get the kids’ stuff ready for the morning, watch a bit of TV and go to bed. I do that on a Monday and Wednesday. On a Thursday OH is off so I get a full working day. Tuesday and Friday I work in the evenings.

My house is a pit; I have piles of washing everywhere.

This is my desk, the house is even worse!

I wouldn’t change the way I work. Yes it’s hectic and the days are long but Little Miss goes to school next year *sob* and things will then get easy. This September she goes over the pre-school side will be doing two and half days and that will really make a difference. Until then I will carry on the way we are, I am trying not to think about summer!

So I am not lucky to be a work at home mum, I work really hard so I can be one. 

Right I have 20 minutes before I have to leave. Time for some more work! 


  1. Yes, it is about hard bloody work. I say that as I am sat upstairs working and skiving too! Guess what I have the cleaners in. I have that much work I am skiving from that I have bit the bullet and decided to opt for cleaners every fortnight so I can work and we can have a clean house!

  2. Yes, this! I absolutely know where you're coming from, though like you, my son starts school next year so things will change then, and no doubt I'll miss him and the craziness!

  3. You do work hard and have worked up to this. I am the opposite in having to work out of the home. Both have positives and negatives. Either way it is what works best for you. Be proud in all you've achieved.

  4. You do work really hard, I just thought about going in this direction and I know it's not for us. It's like most things I think people say you're lucky but without hard work you wouldn't have the things you do hope you feel good for writing this post :)